Kindness Self-Test

As you take the following self-test, consider your most common words and actions. You’ll quickly see that the goal as authentically loving people is for c to be the most natural answer to every question. But it’s important to be aware of where you are now as you take steps to loving more authentically.

1. When I am in a public place, such as a clothing store I………

a)      Find myself snapping at people who get in my way
b)      Try to engage with as few people as possible
c)      Enjoy any opportunity to smile at someone

2. When doing good for someone involves a sacrifice of time, money, or convenience on my part I……….

a)      Dismiss the idea without seriously considering it.
b)      Am willing to sacrifice if I know I’ll get something in return.
c)      Consider whether the sacrifice is worth it and try to make it work.

3. When someone is unkind to me, I…………

a)      React in anger
b)      Try to avoid that person as much as possible
c)      Look for a way to be kind to him/her

4. When I hear of other people doing charitable activities on a Saturday afternoon, I…………

a)      Hope they don’t ask me to participate, because they obviously have freer schedules than I do.
b)      Feel guilty for not participating
c)      Consider how I could do something similar in my neighborhood

5. When I see someone who dresses or acts very differently from me, I…………

a)      Feel superior to him/her
b)      Try to avoid them because they makes me uncomfortable
c)      Try to engage them in some way because they might be able to teach me something.